Posted by red on June 14th, 2009 in Etc., Review

Secrets of a Supersexpert, by Tracy Cox – Rating:

I wanted to like this book. I really did. To be honest, after a quick flip through, I actually throught it was going to bat about four stars. Then I read it.

Tracy Cox is a Supersexpert, apparently. I disagree. From reading this book, I can conclude that she certainly know a lot of “how to please your man” tricks – a la cosmopolitan magazine – fitting as she was once an editor of Australian Cosmopolitan. But her knowledge of alternate, kinky, queer, adventurous and genderqueer sexuality is just plain lacking. Now I realize that this book has a target audience – heterosexual, decently vanilla, conservative, 20-40 year old women and men – but even if I pretend this makes the lack of info and non-understanding apparent through the book “OK”, there’s still stuff that pisses me off in the pages.

Want an example? Tracy is alllllllllll about the cunnilingus. Great – that’s awesome, right, cause most women get off on having their clit licked. Well, that’s most. It’s not MY favorite activity, by far – I prefer penetration. I like it – don’t get me wrong – but I certainly don’t order it at every meal. Well, apparently there’s something wrong with me, because that’s what women – according to Tracy Cox, need to get off. In the section about cunnilingus, Tracy has a small note that instructs to turn to the problem solving section of the book for advice is “she resists getting oral”. This advice at the back proclaims the following

“A lot of times, it’s because she’s worried about how she looks or tastes…Compliments and reassurance should eventually do the trick, but if she’s still reluctant after that it’s likely to be because she’s been brought up to believe genitals are “dirty”…or perhaps she’s had a bad experience in the past.”

Did you catch that? If a woman refuses cunnilingus, it’s because she’s self concious, brainwashed, or traumatized. Huh.

Another example? In her section “What The Hell Is That?”, you’ll find the following definition.

“Edgeplay: Sex involving injury, death or humiliation. Do yourself a favor – don’t go there!”

Wow, right? Injury, death or humiliation. I wasn’t aware humiliation play was as terrible as death, but there you go. Funny how edgeplay means something a bit different to the BDSM world – but gosh, you’d think a supersexpert would know that…

Anyways, I could go on. I could talk about how she has a section on “How to have sex like a gay man.”, whatever THAT means. I could talk about how she says “why someone would want to suck on a dildo, I don’t know”. I could get into her coverage of a MMF threesome, and the example she gives of someone who felt like throwing up after her male partner reached over and stroked another man’s penis, and asking if the reader could handle the lingering wondering over whether he partner was secretly gay. I could analyze the fact that she says dildos are only really used in conjunction with other sex toys.

Yep, that’s all in there – and so much more. It pisses me off even recalling all of these examples.

Bad form, Tracy Cox. Bad form. If you are a supersexpert for the masses, I feel sorry for the masses. Again, I understand this book has a certain target audience…but really?

Of course, I apparently believe genitals are “dirty” and find edge play – the non death kind – erotic.

Super Hot Sex Deck, by Tracey Cox – Rating:

In A Nutshell: This is an alternate version of “Supersex Deck”, which I reviewed here. This one is a tad more saucy and adventurous. The sections are: “Play Dirty” (which is about adding more playfulness to your sexlife – costumes etc), “Show Off” (positions), “Get Kinky” (lots of fun kinky stuff, from anal sex to light s/m), “Lust Lessons and Fantasies” (incorporating fantasies).

Recommended For…? Honestly, I still can’t think of a demographic this would appeal to.

Pocket Kama Sutra, by Tracey Cox – Rating:

In A Nutshell: This is a “pocket” version of Tracy Cox’s Kama Sutra, which I reviewed here. I still think the same things about it.

Kama Sutra 365 – Rating:

In A Nutshell: This book is very similar to the “Sex 365” book I reviewed here. In fact, it is so similar (just a mostly new set of positions), my feelings remain the exact same.